Every parent we have ever met wants to have a smart child and be a smart parent. Raising a child is the most important responsibility anyone will ever have and can provide the most pleasure and reward.
SMART PARENT/SMART CHILD is the revolutionary philosophy that all children are incredibly intelligent from the moment they are born. When parents have learned understanding, respect, highly developed communication and relationship skills and development related expertise, it is amazing what a child can accomplish and, in fact, each child will achieve his maximum potential.
Friday, May 27, 2016
Tuesday, May 24, 2016
The following quote is from a father:
"Talk to your baby from the beginning and tell him all the little things you're doing. My son would calm noticeably when Cynthia spoke telling him what she was doing. He somehow knew his needs were going to be met and he could relax. Even more surprising and rewarding was discovering that if this communication is open between you and your baby from the start, he will begin to "talk" to you, too. Listening, understanding and communicating are key."
These words are exemplary. Communication is so important. Words are the way to connect with your infant in so many ways. They are also how to show your infant that have the utmost respect for her.
Remember your child has heard voices and sounds in utero and will now be able to talk with you in person. He understands you and will respond with verbal sounds called CRYING. Yes, crying is your infant's way of communicating. This is the way they tell you what they need.
Four basic cries:
Listening to your infant and learning the sounds for the above will make such a difference for you. Hearing crying can be very unsettling. Taking the time to listen will make you and your infant more relaxed and more connected.
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Friday, May 6, 2016
So when they exceed our expectations it is truly an affirmation of their ability and their sense of pride and confidence in themselves.
Some of our recent favorites:
1. When a nineteen month old has made up her mind that she wants to be toilet trained, but thinks she can do it standing up like her brother. It is interesting to see her process the message that she has to do it like her mom and not her brother. After days of going through this process incorrectly, she finally looked at me and said “okay” got the stool herself and sat on the toilet. There were high fives all around for her performance.
2. When my son and his family, including a three year old boy, are visiting and challenged by a puzzle they have selected to do together, a three and a half year old offers to help. They are blown away by her confidence and skill. They spend an entire dinner engagement talking about the experience with friends.
3. We have a five year old and a four and a half year old who are both so anxious to read that we provided them with a set of “Bob Books” to take home and practice their skills. This afforded them more time to practice than we have at our daycare. Last week I decided to have them read to the rest of the group. Not only were they confident, perfect and proud, but their performance excited the other children so much they are requesting more reading time for themselves.
All of you have similar experiences as the ones we shared. It is really important that you applaud your child when you witness one. This is one of the best building blocks of self confidence.
But it is also important that you reward yourself! Some combination of skills, knowledge and communication has allowed your child to step out of the box and challenge themselves with great success.
This message is particularly directed at moms who tend to be critical of their abilities and performance and rarely give themselves any reward.
It’s mother’s Day! Time to look on the bright side of your performance and accept some of the credit for the skills, knowledge and confidence your child has.
You are working full time at home or outside of the home while you are raising your child. The hardest challenge ever!
Have a Happy Mother’s Day!