Every parent we have ever met wants to have a smart child and be a smart parent. Raising a child is the most important responsibility anyone will ever have and can provide the most pleasure and reward.
SMART PARENT/SMART CHILD is the revolutionary philosophy that all children are incredibly intelligent from the moment they are born. When parents have learned understanding, respect, highly developed communication and relationship skills and development related expertise, it is amazing what a child can accomplish and, in fact, each child will achieve his maximum potential.
Thursday, December 24, 2015
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Friday, November 6, 2015
Why It Is So Important To Always Inform Your Child What Is Going To Happen And What Is Expected Of Them!
Friday, October 30, 2015
How Did We Figure Out Why Bryan, Our Happy Eighteen Month Old Was Suddenly Having Uncontrollable Tantrums?
Bryan is still limited verbally, he says about 20 words, enunciating clearly, but cannot express himself when he is upset. This made resolution particularly challenging.
We knew there was probably going to be more than one factor, but we were hoping to figure out what the main one was.
After a full week at day care and two weekends at home, a significant pattern emerged. One day at 10:25 am, he left his playtime activity and went to get a chair from one of the tables and take it to the area where morning snack is served.
I reminded him that snack would not be for another five minutes, so could he please return the chair.
He not only refused to comply but, surprisingly, threw the chair. This action was repeated three times. At each occurrence, he was more upset and by this time, he was screaming and crying.
We took a moment to realize that almost all his tantrums had to do with food, particularly the lack of it.
1. He was particularly vulnerable at outside playtime prior to lunch.
2. He was often upset prior to snack time.
3. He would sometimes have a tantrum if we expected him to put on his socks and shoes and have his diaper changed after nap before he had a drink of milk.
We knew he was getting healthy, nutritious food at home and at daycare so the problem was probably quantity.
1. We reviewed his breakfast menu and recommended that it be doubled.
2. We doubled his morning snack so he could maintain his energy through playtime before lunch.
3. He always was a big lunch eater, but we increased the amount of protein he was getting. We have always provided seconds when requested and continued to do so.
Pay attention to the circumstances that occur prior to a meltdown and determine if there is a pattern. We were fortunate that this became so obvious and was a relatively easy fix.
1. Assume you have addressed all the behavioral issues that occur as your child is trying to figure out how to best survive in life.
2. Forge that they are progressing at a rapid rate physically, emotionally and intellectually. Stay tuned in.
This solution has solved 90% of the tantrum issue. There are still moments when he does not want to listen, wants his own way, or shows signs of fatigue and lack of emotional control.
We are still tuned in to him to also help him resolve all of the above situations in a positive, productive way.
Thursday, October 22, 2015
Friday, October 9, 2015
Why Do All The Parents (Well, 99%) Describe The Task of Diaper Changing as “traumatic, a battle, a screaming scene, a chase around the room after their child”?
Thursday, October 1, 2015
Friday, September 25, 2015
What we are witnessing bodes very well for our children’s futures! They are redefining what masculine really means!
Friday, September 11, 2015
Why Personal or Family Related Communication That Could Be Explosive Should Never Occur When Children are Present!
Friday, September 4, 2015
Friday, August 28, 2015
Friday, August 14, 2015
Why We Believe That Material “Crutches” Create A Strong Probability of Delaying/Reducing Emotional Maturity
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Friday, August 7, 2015
Friday, July 31, 2015
How Do We Get Our Two Year Old To Stop Getting Out of His “Big Boy Bed”? We Haven’t Had a Good Night’s Sleep In Two Months!
If you have a specific problem that you would like advice on, leave it in the comments down below!
Friday, July 24, 2015
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-Initially, both parents should talk to her so she knows they are in agreement.
-Proposed script- It is important to make a clear statement
Thursday, July 9, 2015
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Thursday, June 18, 2015
-Outline your trip on a map with a bright marker.
-Write in departure and return dates a week before you leave.
-If you are visiting friends and or family write down any important names.
-Talk about important locations you will visit.
-Know ahead of time what the living/sleeping arrangements will be. If you are sharing one bedroom, arrange for fold out beds, sleeping bags, pack and plays, or whatever is available so everyone has their own space. The only exception to this is if you are camping in a tent- that is a very different adventure!
-Look for every opportunity to give your child additional responsibilities.
-Provide a separate backpack for each child. Include a selection of their favorite books, toys, music, coloring books, blank paper to draw on, puzzles ect.
-Add in a few new items (Choose items that will require some discovery)
-If you are staying with family, make sure you request that they partner with you and respect your roles with your children.
-Pack snacks that are high in protein and low on salt and sugar. This is especially necessary if you have long flights or long car drives.
-Do not bend you own rules. You child will feel much more secure and safe.
-Do not forget to use every opportunity to verbally reward good behavior and unexpected accomplishment.
-Do not intentionally cancel naps. Everyone needs a break in the middle of the day. Canceling naps does not mean they will automatically go to bed earlier in the evening.
-Do not ruin the trip over any small incident.