Every parent we have ever met wants to have a smart child and be a smart parent. Raising a child is the most important responsibility anyone will ever have and can provide the most pleasure and reward.
SMART PARENT/SMART CHILD is the revolutionary philosophy that all children are incredibly intelligent from the moment they are born. When parents have learned understanding, respect, highly developed communication and relationship skills and development related expertise, it is amazing what a child can accomplish and, in fact, each child will achieve his maximum potential.
Friday, April 29, 2016
The Fear Of Abandonment! The experience for any child whose parent has walked away from them in a public place!
Wednesday, April 27, 2016
Thursday, April 21, 2016
-Showing signs of being flat footed because their feet are not being properly supported.
Wednesday, April 20, 2016
Parents have so many questions about all the information they have heard from so many different sources: OB, mid-wife, doula, hospital staff, lactation specialist, parents, grandparents, parenting books, online sites, blogs and so on.
Here are some answers to some of the frequent questions I have been asked.
Bottles? I recommend Avent and Born Free. Both are eco-friendly and easy to use. The nipples work really well and the flow is accurate for the age stated.
*Nipple sizes change with the growth of the child. Milk flow needs to flow easily as your child wants to feed in a quick rhythm. If they have to work hard, they will tire easily and only eat enough to not be hungry, not enough to be satiated.
Formulas? In general, organic is a healthy choice. Earth's Best and Baby's Only are well liked by parents and infants. There are many choices should your infant have a medical issue. Do your best to choose the one best suited as too many changes will throw off the feeding rhythm.
*Powder is the preferred over ready-to-feed (ok in a pinch). Easy to make; fill bottles ahead with water and just add powder at the feed or take in proportioned containers on the go. When mixing, do not shake vigorously. Turn up and down and swirl until well mixed. Uncap to release air bubbles and close (not too tightly or will create suction and be difficult to feed).
Diapers? An assortment of brands fitting all shapes and sizes. Natural and chemical free will be gentler for your infant. Ages on label are not always accurate. It can sometimes be trial and error.
*Sizing changes comparable to age. Newborn (first 2-3 weeks), Size1-1 month. Size 2-2 months. Size 3-3 months. Size 4-4 months. Size 5-5 months. Size 6-6 months- underwear.
*Top of diaper should fit to the belly button. Sides should easily close with tabs meeting in the middle. When the diaper is mid-way between belly button and groin and you are tugging to close the tabs, it is time to change to next size. Important for belly expansion when feeding and elimination.
Bumpers? An important safety item and a must have. Recent recommendations have been either no bumper or the mesh style. The first risk is that your infant will get either arms, legs or both stuck in between the bars and/or hurt themselves banging into the sides while "traveling" in their sleep. The second is that the mesh is not child-proof and can shred and be eaten.
*Polyester filled or Organic
*FIRM, NOT BILLOWY
*Fits evenly all around the crib
Friday, April 15, 2016
The vast majority of those parents will allow their children to utilize the play equipment incorrectly with no comment from them. Such as:
1. Hanging over the swing seat on their stomach.
2. Walking up the slide.
3. Going down the slide head first or backwards on their stomach.
4. Older children riding small tricycles.
But Mark, one of the dads, takes a totally different approach. He is socializing too, but he is very aware of what his son, Steven, is doing.
Instead of allowing Steven to follow the other children, he challenges him to do something that Mark has been talking about but has not yet tried.
In one situation, he suggests Steven try pedaling a much bigger bicycle than usual, giving him specific guidelines regarding speed and technique so he will succeed and assuring him he will be watching.
Later, he suggest Steven try to make a basket after raising the basketball net higher. They practices a few throws together and then the dad backs off and watches, verbally cheering him on.
In both cases, Steven and his dad appeared totally connected in their relationship, with both of them earning praise. Steven’s dad has chosen a well defined role and is keeping his message constant.
Did all the children have fun? Of course they did, and everyone left happy.
But the child’s dad who took advantage of the situation to reinforce his teaching/coaching role and challenge his child with great success did something better.
They had fun too, but Steven’s dad took advantage of an unexpected situation to provide his child with his attention and experience.
The most interesting result was that Steven talked about the experience several times in the next few days. The joy in his voice and pride on his face said it all. He not only was proud of his accomplishment, but obviously gets a consistent message from his dad 100% of the time.
Take advantage of every opportunity to educate, support and bond with your child in a positive way.
Tuesday, April 12, 2016
"Cynthia helped us as an infant caregiver and consultant for just a week. She did more than typical night nursing-she helped us as new parents understand our 8 week old baby in a new way. She analyzed (with lots of two-way conversation) the problems we were having with our daughter's frequent feedings, stomach discomfort and non-restorative sleep and made excellent suggestions to alter our patterns.
Some of the amazing changes made:
- Increase the nipple flow on the bottles which allowed us to increase the amounts of milk she would consume for her age and need.
- Increase diaper size to allow her more room to expand with increase in milk feedings and growth.
- Implemented a sleep routine where we would no longer wake her for nighttime feedings but rather allow her to wake herself when hungry.
- Showed us effective ways to calm our daughter to fall asleep without us having to hold her to help her fall asleep.
Some of these sound so simple and they really had a significant impact on our daughter's eating and sleeping. On the first night, she slept longer than she ever had and ate more as well. It was a dramatic difference.
Cynthia was so successful in helping us understand and manage our daughter's eating/sleeping regime that we only needed one week's help since our daughter responded so well."
Even though it may seem that you are in a "dark" place with no way out, do not despair. Seeking the right advice sooner than later will get you to a better place and the reward is enjoying each day with your infant more and more.
If you have a personal question email us at Info@SmartParentSmartChild.com
Tuesday, April 5, 2016
Friday, April 1, 2016
There is something so special about dads taking on routine, but demanding childcare, as well as prioritizing their non-work time to spend it with their children.
I realize that our current dads are more likely to be very involved with their young children’s lives than former generations, but every time I witness it or experience it, it makes me smile.
Here are some of my most recent experiences.
1. Picking up his 3 and a half year old son from daycare while he already has his four month old daughter in a baby Bjorn. They are off to the supermarket to shop for the family.
2. Celebrating father’s day at a Chinese restaurant and obviously educating his child about the experience of totally new foods.
3. Taking a day off from work to take his five year old daughter and two year old son to an amusement park.
4. Being the sole caregiver for his four year old son and fourteen month old daughter while their mom is out of town on business. The unexpected challenge was that they both got sick and it did not occur to him to ask for help.
5. Trying to braid his daughter’s hair before taking her to school.
6. Trying to keep up with a very young toddler who is exploring the mall.
7. Going shopping with his five year old daughter and trying to select items she will love.
8. Taking his son to a ballet class because that is what he wants to do.
9. Who takes the time to let his fourteen month old daughter come down the stairs by herself, even though he is behind schedule to catch his early morning flight. He is so respectful of her skill and intelligence.
All these dad and many more are committed to being completely involved in their children’s lives!
Good luck to all of them!